Unlike in the straight world, many say they find working as an escort on the gay scene to be an accepted, even applauded practice. While none of the nearly dozen men interviewed had told their parents about their sugar daddies, nearly all had discussed them with their friends. And unlike the young women engaged in similar behavior who reported feeling great shame and remorse, the men generally seemed less traumatized by their decision. In fact, they often felt emboldened by the money they were able to earn, rather than shamed by the stigma.
Christian Grov, an assistant professor of public health at Brooklyn College and co-author of “In the Company of Men: Inside the Lives of Male Prostitutes,” attributes the rise of young gay men engaged in sex work as part of a growing sense of social acceptance. Gay men engaged in sex work often face far less of a stigma than do straight women, he says. Generally speaking, Grov finds the gay culture more accepting of one-night stands and casual relationships.
On his radio show today, Dennis Prager said: “I have never once used the term ‘gay lifestyle.’ I’ve never bought into that notion. Apparently there is a significant proportion of the gay population that has different values, unless this is wrong.”
Pete calls: “It seems more a sign of maleness as opposed to gayness.”
Dennis: “I think that’s true. But in the gay world, that’s what males do.”
“Straight men don’t look at straight women who prostitute themselves with the same admiration as gay men do at gay men who prostitute themselves.”
“While there is shame over prostitution in the heterosexual world, there is admiration in parts of the homosexual world.”